“-You should have walked away.
-Because you never know how he is going to behave when you tell him your relationship is over. Because you never know how he is going to behave if you dare to tell him you don’t like that trip to his family home he had been forcing you to take for the last twenty five years. Because you never know how he is going to react when you tell him your heart was broken when he prevented you from going to the funerals of your little sister. Because you never know how he is going to react when you tell him that what attracted you to him does not exist anymore. Because you never know how he is going to behave when you tell him you don’t feel safe anymore. Because you never know how he is going to react when you tell him you don’t love him anymore. No, you just never know!”
This is one of the reasons why many people stay in toxic and destructive marriages or relationships.
Because their partner is not a sweet person they met anymore but instead a violent person ready and able to do all the unbelievable and horrible things to keep their partner with them. Even when everything says the right thing to do is to let go.
They fear for their lives. And they are right because every single day people die or live miserable lives because of their relationship. But is staying the right decision?
As for me, when you have done your best to make your marriage or relationship work, to save your broken relationship and bring back that love which united you, in vain, it is wise to let go. Your life and happiness are more important than anything else, remember.
People make mistakes. You thought he or she was THE ONE, the person you were looking for to spend the rest of your life. You thought you were going to build this solid, happy, healthy and lasting marriage. You thought you were going to age together. This is not going to happen.
And then what?
Yes, people make mistakes! And it is very OK to make mistakes, right? And to walk away from a relationship when it is not working despite our efforts to fix it.
But what would be crazy and irresponsible would be to stay in a relationship where you are not happy, a marriage where you are not living and blossoming but surviving with fear as your daily companion.
Yes, it is hard to start all over again. It is scary because you don’t trust people anymore and don’t want to experience that nightmare again. It is very scary when you have no means to support yourself, and no friends. You will suffer. But you will get through, stronger, and have the life you desire and deserve.
Only you can save you, remember!
Do you relate? If this is you, you know what to do. Life is short. Your time is limited as Steve Jobs said. And no one deserves to live a miserable life because of someone’s else, a life they had no control over. If this is you, I really hope this post inspires you to do what is good for you. What is right for you. It is the right thing to do.